It’s O.K. to Leave the Dishes in the Sink Today

by Laura Wallis | Follow Her on Twitter Here

“We always try to do our best, and since we can’t do anything better then that, we might as well call that perfect.” –Anonymous

busy-momWhat are you struggling with right now?

We’re all struggling with something. Balancing housework, raising good kids, keeping everyone healthy, or even trying to have a life of our own. Sometimes it’s just completely overwhelming. And sometimes you need to just say, “Forget about it!” as one of my favorite people on the web, Marie Forleo, says.

What do I mean by that? Let it go. Leave the dishes in the sink. Let the laundry pile up as high as the ceiling. Don’t call your mother-in-law.

We can only handle so much and it’s a good practice to just do the best you can, because that’s good enough. No one is going to die if there’s no milk in the house for a day. Your family will live if the beds go unmade. And your mother-in-law can wait one day (maybe).

Here’s a great article from Prevention Magazine Online: The Blessings of Imperfection.

Rather than pushing yourself into oblivion and using all your energy for the struggle, just go with whatever comes up. That means allowing yourself to mess up every once in a while. By mess up, I don’t mean neglect your responsibilities but don’t sweat the small stuff. It’s a waste of your precious time and energy.

Today is my youngest daughter’s birthday.  I remember when my oldest daughter had her first birthday. I invited to the entire extended family and friends galore.  I wanted everything to be perfect, but I was exhausted.  Looking at all the perfect moms on those, oh so perfect, glossy magazine covers standing in my sweats at the grocery store, I felt a twinge of guilt.  O.K., more than a twinge.  I stayed up half the night baking cupcakes and cleaning the house.  And when everyone arrived the next day I was tired and grumpy.  What’s worse, I was grumpy and irritable towards my husband and I am sure I wasn’t in the best place to really focus on my daughter and her big day.  Sure, she was only one, and she didn’t care or even know what her birthday was that day, but I wanted each and every day to be perfect back then- especially on her first birthday.

Years later and a few birthdays under my belt, I didn’t stay up really late baking last night.  We are heading to Duff’s from Ace of Cakes newish digs on Melrose here in Los Angeles and decorating them there.  I should have washed my hair late last night, but I didn’t get a chance as I was wrapping presents.  I don’t feel the need to be perfect.  I do feel the need to be present.  To be present in her life is something I am working on.  She is already 9.  Time flies as they say and I can’t wait to look her in the eyes and tell her how much she means to me when I pick her up with her friends from school today.  Even if my hair isn’t washed and there are a few dishes in the sink.

Photo courtesy of Real Moms Guide.


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Melanie April 26, 2013 at 5:58 am

What a wonderful post, Laura. We have too much to juggle in this crazy world and I welcome the idea of letting go of the pressures for a little bit and allowing me to be imperfect! I’m sure your daughter loved her cake decorating party but especially loved you being present with her :-).


Laura Wallis April 26, 2013 at 6:12 am

She definitely knows how to decorate her cake and eat it, too!


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