What’s a Mom Worth?

by Laura Wallis | Follow Her on Twitter Here

happy mother's dayWe’ve heard it before: “Every mother is a working mother.”

So, to celebrate Mother’s Day every year, Salary.com compiles a list of “mom jobs” and calculates “what a mom is worth” if she was paid for her various jobs.

But I don’t understand the point of it. Are we really “janitors” for 7.8 hours a week, and then also “housekeepers” for 10.10 hours a week? Does the cook part include the time we spend making lunches, or is that actual ‘standing over the stove’ cooking time?

And if you work from home, like I do, do you count the time you spend chopping vegetables while on a conference call as “sous chef” or “working” or both?

While I understand that the salary calculators and info-graphics are just fun ways for their website to promote itself, I think the reason it is so troubling to me is because as moms, we are literally ALL these things most of the time.

Because we are multi taskers!! If we “paid” someone to do what we do, they would quit! Because our days can’t add up to just X number of hours.

Moms might spend 8 hours a week as a “van driver” but I bet during that time they are also working as a “psychologist” and “teacher.” So would we get double the hours for that?

Probably the hardest part of being a mom is knowing that you won’t know how your “work” turned out for many a year. Whereas with a “day job” you get instant feedback and typically, a great deal of gratification.  This, the most important job in the world, doesn’t provide those avenues.

Kids aren’t going to thank you for making them eat their vegetables or brush their teeth…until much later. They’re not going to notice that those clean socks magically morph from the floor to the drawer. And that’s OK.  Because one day, they will look back and think, “Wow, my mom was always there for me.” And, just hopefully, they will do many of the same things for their kids.

So, on Mother’s Day, I hope your family shows their gratitude to you for all the hours you put in every day of the year…many of them thankless.

And, I hope that you are able to see your mom, too, or talk to her, and finally say to her what your own kids might someday say to you:

  • Thanks for buying the supplies at the last minute so I could finish the project.
  • Thanks for remembering that I like the crusts cut off my sandwich.
  • Thanks for sacrificing your “free time” to watch me play baseball.
  • Thanks for taking me to the park. Again. And again. And again.
  • Thanks for forcing me to practice the piano, even when I didn’t want to.
  • Thanks for teaching me how to bake bread.
  • Thanks for riding bikes with me.
  • Thanks for showing me how fun it is to be together.
  • Thanks for being nice to me, even when I probably didn’t deserve it.
  • Thanks for snuggling every night.

All these things you do, that you can’t put a price on, for any reason in the world, add up to one great job: being a mom!

I hope you get the day off…and actually someone does the dishes for you,  not just leave them for you on Monday.

And I hope they buy you what you want.

But if they don’t, try to remember there’s nothing wrong with having a little something in reserve for yourself! 🙂

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